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manheadacheWhen you’re feeling stressed on the job, it can be hard to leave work at the office. Your job may preoccupy your mind as you drive, as you eat, and as you interact with family or friends. But the battle to control your mind can intensify when you try to go to sleep.

Sleep and stress are competitors. When stress continually activating a part of the brain that is otherwised used for sleep, then stress wins the tug-of-war.

According the AASM, job stress can be a cause of adjustment insomnia. This involves disturbed sleep or sleeplessness that may last for a few days or a few weeks. Other symptoms may include anxiety, worry and tension.

A common feature of adjustment insomnia is “ruminative thoughts.”  This is when you dwell on the same thoughts, chewing them over and over in your mind. You may lie in bed staring at the ceiling, unable to stop thinking about work. Even when you finally fall asleep, your work may invade your dreams. The Staples National Small-Business Survey polled 302 owners and executives of small businesses, and more than half said they dream about work -or “sleepwork.”

Scientific research confirms that job stress can affect your sleep. In 2005 a study in the journal Sleep involved 8,770 Japanese workers. In both men and women, a high level of stress at work was liked to insomnia.

A 2007 study in the International Journal of Behavioral Medicine linked insomnia to these three types of job stressors:

  • High work demand
  • Low influence over decisions
  • High professional compromise

The type of job stress you experience may affect your sleep in different ways. Another study linked work overload to poor sleep quality.  Having role conflicts at work was related to non-restorative sleep and trouble falling asleeo or staying asleep.

According to the National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health, sleep disturbances are one early warning sign of job stress. Others may include:

  • Headaches
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Short temper
  • Upset stomach
  • Job dissatisfaction
  • Low morale

Job stress may be unavoidable. But sleep specialists say you can take steps to improve your sleep even when you are stressed.  Establishing a pattern of relaxing behaviors close to bedtime and limiting work to the early evening may help to reduce stress.

Here are jus a few more tips to help you be less restless with work worries:

  • Remain active
    Try to get some exervise every day. Both your mind and body will be more relaxed when its bedtime.
  • Express yourself
    Take some time to slow down before going to bed. Get away from the computer, turn off the TV and the cell phone, and relax quietly for 15 to 30 minutes. Take a warm bath, enjoy a light snack or listen to some soft music.
  • Avoid “bedwork”
    Never bring any work to bed with  you; your bed should be refuge from your job. Also avoid doing other activities in bed such as reading, watching TV or talking on the phone. Only use your bed for sleep.
  • Get out of bed
    If you have trouble falling asleep, get out of bed and do something relaxing until you feel sleep agian. Tossing and turning will only increase your frustrations.
  • See a specialist
    Some doctors are specialists in behavioral sleep medicine. They can teach you how to relax at bedtime so you can fall asleep more easily.

Ever wake up and not remember having sex the night before? Yah, me neither but there are some people out there that do (and not with the help of roofies or alcohol). According to a piece in Newsweek, a new sleep disorder has come to the forefront called sexsomnia (not to be mistaken with “sexmania,” which if it isn’t the name of a porn yet it surely should be).

  Add sex to the roster of unlikely sleep behaviors known as parasomnias, which rang from sleep driving to sleep eating. Think of it as a more advanced form of sleepwalking. Publishing of the journal Sleep on what they call “sleepsex” or “sexsomnia,” covers the full gamut of sexual activity, from fondling to intercourse, with one crucial difference, the people apparently have no conscious awareness of what they’re doing and, when wakened, have no recollection of it.

I know this is probably a tragic disorder to have, but the idea of hearing a guy apologize in the middle of the night, “Sorry baby. I didn’t know. I have sexsomnia,” cracks me up! J

So just when you thought that your partner was just being frisky in the night, could seriously have a problem, and mostly likely, should see someone. A survey was conducted gathered data from 219 people, 92% of whom had experienced multiple “sexsomnia” episodes.

People are at-risk for developing sex-related sleep disorders when they also tend to suffer from other sleep disorders-such as sleepwalking or sleep terrors. So, sexsomnia doesn’t come out from nowhere, for whatever reason, sexual behaviors become part of the repertoire.

These disorders were thought to have indicative psychological problems, but it does not necessarily reflect a daytime psychological problem. And “sexsomnia” disorders can easily be treated with medication. The longer you go with this problem without getting it properly treated, the more you can develop a secondary psychological problem such as depression.

With so much being publicized of the existence of sexsomnia, doctors and researchers are hoping it will cause more people to seek help. The condition is highly treatable; seeking help can only work to a sufferer’s advantage. After all, if you’re going to have sex, you might as well enjoy it, right!

This just in… wow, do you really think that she was sleepwalking, or just tried of her partner… it’s a little questionable…leave me a little insight on what you think is wrong with this picture:

  Sleep medicine experts have successfully treated a rare case of a woman having sex with strangers while sleep walking.

  The behaviour had disrupted the lives of the woman and her partner. At night while asleep, the middle aged sleepwalker – who lives in Australia- left her house and had sexual intercourse with strangers. The behaviour continued for several months and the woman had “no memory” of her nocturnal activities.

  Circumstantial evidence, such as condoms found scattered around the house, alerted the couple to the problem. One occasion, her partner awoke to find her missing, went searching for her and found her engaged in the sex act….

 “Incredulity is the leading player in cases like this,” stated Peter Buchanan, a sleep physician, in Sydney Aussie, who handled the case. But a combination of factors convinced him that the case was a real sleepwalking phenomenon, including the distress of the couple, and an in-depth clinical evaluation.

Sleep Talking
During that evaluation, the patient was assessed by psychiatrists and checked for  physical problems such as brain tumours, which may cause unusual behaviour. Neither of those examinations could find a cause.

  However, she was found to have a history of talking in her sleep as a teenager and when monitored in the sleep laboratory, she was found to have a higher number of arousals from deep sleep than is usual. Both of  these factors might indicate a susceptibility to abnormal sleep behaviour.

 Roger Allen, a sleep specialist in private practice in Brisbance is sceptical. “Sex is a primal behaviour so it’s not impossible- men have erections in their sleep after all – but this case involved such complex behaviour it seems less likely.” He also points out that eliminating psychiatric conditions as a cause of the behaviour would be difficult.

Sleep Driving
But there are some extraordinary cases of sleep walkers leaving their homes, driving cars, or engaging in behaviours that they would not usually. In 1987, Ken Parks, drove 20 miles from his home in Pickering, Ontario, to his in-laws house, where he strangled his father-in-law unconscious, and stabbed his mother-in-law to death. He was acquitted of murder because he was sleepwalking at the time.

“People in a state of automatism don’t have access to their full range of beliefs and desires, so it seems justifiable to excuse them,” says Neil Levy of the Centre for Applied Philosophy and Public Ethics at the University of Melbourne.

Sleepwalking is often triggered by stress, and this may have been the case with the Sydney woman, says Buchanan. She stopped her night-time excursions after psychiatric counselling. Drugs such as benzodiazepines, which are sometimes used to treat sleep walkers, were not necessary.

Any type of sleepwalking is rare. It occurs in around 3% of children and young adolescents, and about 0.5% of adults. Usually it involves little more than walking around in a fairly purposeful way while asleep, although sleepwalkers may lash out if awoken

…Living for the instant brain fix.

Is it just us, or does it seem like everyone is either searching for that little something to get a competitive edge or simply struggling to keep up?

Americans are 24-7_365, I am guilty of swilling espresso as I  burn the candle at both ends to make sure my day is well productive. But that doesn’t disturb us nearly as much as the overwhelming amount of highly caffeinated “energy” products being marketed to help stimulate our competitive kids. Snackfood maker Mars has even released a new “Snickers Charged,” -so even candy can now give you an extra nudge.

The pharmaceutical industry is, of course, lurking right there with a whole slew of cognitive enhancers to push our bodies and brains to the max!

As a society, we tend to reflexively deride and often morally condemn the instant fix (While at the same time scrambling for it). But what about drugs that can instantly improve your cognitive functioning? Not a good idea, right? They’re unfair- like steroids for the brain. Until you consider the pilot who’s flying your plane for the next 10 hours or the neurosurgeon operating on your mom. Maybe a hit of Provigil doesn’t sound like suck a bad idea.

There’s nothing earth-shattering or radical about the idea of “cognitive enhancers.” Caffeine and nicotine are two old-school boosters. Many studies have proven that both help maintain attention, highten alertness and, of course, keep people awake. Research has also shown that caffeine possesses cognition-enhancing properties that can enhance higher cognitive functions like short- and long-term memory and perceptual sensitivity.

But the java jolt isn’t enough for those seeking the new “smart drugs” or “nootropics,” many of which were orginally developed to treat neurological or mental disorders such as Parkinson’s disearse.

Two of the drugs which are now being used as cognitive enhancers, donepezil and tacrine were orginally approved in the United States for treatment of Alzheimers. A study published in the journal Neurology found that commerical pilots who took 5 milligrams of donepezil for one month performed better than pilots on a placebo when asked to fly a Cessna 172 on a flight simulator. There was a significant difference between the groups in the effectiveness with which they dealth with emergencies.

Then there’s Ritalin, the drug of choice on college campuses for sleep-deprived students struggling to pull all nighters, complete term papers, even boost concentration during exams.
Drugs like Ritalin and Adderall are commonly prescribed to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). At recommended doses, these medications can accelerate the centeral nervous system, heightening concentration and alertness.

But as a “smart drug,” Ritalin may not be quite so smart. Never mind the fact that sharing prescription medicine is a felony drug offense in most states- taking excessively high doses of Ritalin can increase the risk for neurological and heart-related symptoms.

The current superstar of prescription stimulants is Provigil (Modafinild), first approved as a treatment for narcolepsy. A secondary indication was to treat something called Shift Work Sleep Disorder (SWSD), a sleep disorder that affects people who frequently work schedules that resist the bodys’ natural Circadian rhythm, such as night shifts or rotating shifts. We both know doctors who regularly use Provigil.

Provigil can keep a person awake and alert for 90 hours straight, with none of the jitteriness, impaired concentration, “rebound effect,” or risk of addiction associated with amphetamines or even coffee.

Not surprisingly, Provigil is reportedly popular with the U.S. Air Force, and has been used more than 150 times this year by bomber crews to ward off fatugue on missions of mare than 12 hours.

Provigil seems to safely bolster alertness for day at a time wiht few side effects, but its long-term effects have not been sufficiently studied to completely rule out all potential problems.

A couple of final points, I have talked to quite a few parents on this topic of cognitive enhancers, and the issue of “fairness” invariably comes up. For instance, do you want your kid taking the SATs and competing with a bunch of other kids who are tweaking on Provigil? Hopefully, we will have all instilled in them an awareness of the profound difference between the abilty to perform will on standardized tests and the capacity for intellectual discovery, innovation and creativity, and humane conduct.

  I took a sleeping pill the other night, as a last resort for caffeine-laced insomnia. It was like a 10-hour sleigh ride through an enchanted forest.

These pill may be addictive, the warning label said.

NO KIDDING, I thought! 🙂

  Sleep is by far the new sex, a lot of sleep experts are starting to say, it’s being advertised all over the place, sex sells is to sleep (aids) sell: Men think about it every seven seconds or so. Women romanticize it. Teenagers yearn for the weekends, when they might get a little of it- that goes for both sex & sleep!

  These days, sleep is just another basic need that Americans can’t seem to meet. And though the national sleep deficit is mostly a cultural issue, it’s easier to treat as a medical problem than as a symptom of life out of whack. People aren’t winding down, they’re going to be and their minds are still racing from the days dos’ and didn’t dos’.

  The National Sleep Foundation releases its annual poll March 28th that confirms what most people already know, if they could escape their groggy haze long enough to form a coherent thought: Nobody gets enough sleep. The reasons are familiar. People spend more hours working and driving, and they raise this children, manage their households and care for aging parents on the fly. They also stay plugged into the grind longer, tapping our e-mails untiljust before hitting the sheets, or they’re already in bed, with their laptop propped up in front of them.

Then they expect to screech to a halt and enter REM on demand.

“People feel the need to be very efficient in their sleep,” said Heather Hartley, a sociology professor, who studies the links between drug companies and society. “They budget a set amount of time and then get stressed out if they can’t go immediately to sleep. There’s no cushion. There’s where the vicious cycle begins.”

  There probably was never a golden age of sleep in this country, as if Americans were well-rested before globalization, the Internet and women’s liberation came along and ruined everything. We’ve always worked hard. Even our old colloquialisms for sleep, such as “hitting the hay” and “sawing logs,” are work-related.

  But the collective fatigue is growing. People sleep nearly an hour less each night than they did two generations ago, according to historic estimates of sleep patterns. High-school seniors are among the most sleep-deprived, getting about two hours less each weeknight than the nine hours they need.

  The sleep experts say relax, drink less coffee and booze, eat better, rest more & exercise. The drug companies say take this pill.

These days, a prescription is far easier to acquire than a healthy life.

  American’s filled an astounding 42 million prescriptions for sleeping pills last year, up 60 percent since 2000, according to the research company IMS Health. Drug companies spent $300 million marketing sleeping pills such as Lunesta and Ambien last year and grossed $2 billion is sales!\

Meanwhile, coffee consumption keep rising. There’s a Starbucks almost every 6 blocks in my city.

  “Somethings’ got to give, ” says  another psychology professor who has begun to study sleeplessness as a symptom of work stress. Personal coping strategies can only do so much, she added, when the economy and culture are rigged against a good nights’ sleep.

  I don’t intend to pop a sleeping pill more than once every few years, no matter how many Lunesta ads crowd my favorite television shows. The drug-induced slumber feels to little too much like getting hit in the head. So the little pill beckons, offering instant relief for your Chronic Sleep Disorder, you get on the sleigh and pull the fur robes snug around your hands, and glide through the forest toward the golden pot of coffee shimmering on the horizon.

  It’s not a good nights’ sleep, but it’s the next-best thing.

Watch video here!

  With all the time and money now being spent on achieving a better night’s sleep, “Forbes” says sleep is now the new sex. Laura Berman, the director of the Berman Center for Woman’s Sexual health joined “Situation” to discuss ‘Forbes’ new study, as well as this disturbing new trend:

Tucker Carlson, host of ‘Situation’:  This is depressing as hell. Is this real?

Laura Berman:  In many ways it is real. We are sleep deprived as a nation. And we are trying to fit too mych into 24-hour day-sleeping pills and sleeping aid and sleeping mattresses, ‘Forbes’ is right, are on overdrive and being sold like crazy. But I think the main reason people are sleepless is primarily because of stress and depression more than anything else.

Carlson: Not because they’re having too much sex?

Berman: No. They’re not having enough sex! And ironically, the amazing part is that sex can actually really help you with sleep. And what ends up happening is that you try to pack too much in. you get into bed. You’re stressed. You’re uptight. And then you start getting stressed about not being able to fall asleep, and that keeps you even more sleepless.

Instead, you should try having sex. It will help you sleep, because it releases endorphins and you feel better about yourself. Or try to relax; give each other a massage. Or you can do two for one. In fact, I was just seeing that KY out with a two in one massage/touch product, where it doubles as a massage lotion, as well as a lubricant. So you can get two for one!

Carlson: At KY, they think of everything…  😉

Berman: Yes…

Carlson: Can you imagine a scenario in which sleep porn becomes popular?

Berman: There you go. You can wear those glasses or, you know, blindfold that has a video image running. And that will be the new kind of sex. We like multitasking, so you can get two done at once.

Carlson: Is there really a sleep crisis? I mean, it seems like one of those perennial stories, like LSD is coming back. “TIME” magazine does a cover on that every decade or so. Is there really a sleep crisis, though? Are people really sleeping less?

Berman: They really are. And it is a real issue because it becomes a vicious cycle. As we’re stressed and depressed, we’re not sleeping. And, we’re trying to fit too much in and we’re too anxious and we’re too worried about everything we have to get done. We just don’t get enough sleep and tat only represses our immune system, but it makes us more stressed and depressed, and the cycle continues. We need to look at this as a society and Americans, because its not only, you know, the fact that we’re avoiding sex, but we’re really not taking care of our bodies and ourselves and make that time for sleep.

Carlson: If you were to give three tips- what are your quick sex tips for improving the intimacy in your life?

Berman: I actually just did a big study on intimacy and found that couples who kiss regularly and spontaneously not only have higher levels of intimacy, general intimacy, but also have decreased levels of stress and depression.

So, instead of taking those sleeping aids, and buying that $1,000 mattress, try kissing your partner more and cuddling them more.  

We also found that sexual satisfaction not only is a stress reliever but impacts intimacy. Taking a vacation together, going on a date night a week, taking care of yourself, exercising. All of that will do great things for your stress levels, to alleviate depression, to enhance your relationship, which really enhances your quality of life and your sense of well being, which will all contribute to your sleep. If you do have a sleep problem that is really significant, before you start popping those pills, go to a sleep lab, take a home test, see a behaviorist. Don’t get caught into the cycle of taking these pills in a way that’s going to make you dependent and just create the problem be a band aid for a much larger problem.

Carlson: Yes. I think that’s wise advice. And finally, in one word, your choice is dinner or a movie? Not dinner and a movie. Dinner or a movie, what do you choose?

Berman: Definitely dinner, because a movie, you’re not talking to each other. It’s un-personal.

[sex not only helps you sleep, but you get a little exercise, you connect with your partner, and you release stress. Doing it safely, and wisely, your more opt to wake-up with a smile on your face, and the anticipation for a good day ahead, and a good night at home….sweet dreams 😉 ]






Sufferers unknowingly have sex in their sleep…

  Researchers are struggling to understand a rare medical condition where sufferers unknowingly demand, or actually have, sex while asleep…

  Looking into sexsomnia – making sexual advances towards another person while asleep – has been hampered as sufferers are so embarrassed by the problem they tend not to own up to it, while doctors do not ask about it.

  As of yet, there is no cure for the condition, which often leads to difficulties in relationships.

 “It really bothers me that I can’t control it,” one woman exclaimed. “It scares me because I don’t think it has anything to do with my partner. I don’t want this foolish condition to hurt us in the long run.”

  Most researchers view sexsomnia as a variant of sleepwalking, where sufferers are stuck between sleep and wakefullness, though sexsomniacs ten to stay in bed rather than get up and walk about…lol 😉

 While sleepwalking affects two to four percent of adults, sexsomnia is not thought to be as a common problem, but an Internet survey of sexsomniacs carried out in 2005 that dew 219 reliable respondents concluded it was more prevalent than medical case reports alone suggested.

“Most of the time sleep sex occurs between peope who are already partners,” stated sleep specialist Mark Pressman.

“Sometimes they hate it, Sometimes they tolerate it, and on rare occasions you have stories of people liking it better than waking sex.” Pressman added of the reactions of sexsomniacs’ partners.

  With no cure, addressing triggering factors – stress or sleep deprivation – can help, while Michael Mangan, a pschologist at Unvr. New Hamsphire, has set up a Web site,, to help sufferers.

  Meanwhile they are trying to devise a procedure for diagnosing sexsomnia in legal cases where sufferers have been accused of sexual assult, that’s just great, people are really going to be able to stat getting away with assults, because they will pull this card that they are a sexsomniac!